John Kador’s book called Effective Apology could be a book that should be prescribed reading to everybody working. In fact it seems suitable consumption for anybody living in present times.
Why restrict this to the now. It could be required Business School material in the future as long as company policies seem to determine that the customer is a number rather than a human being.
The principle of never apologising affects an organisation from bottom to top. It’s probably written into the procedure manual of most large companies. At no time are staff members allowed to admit that the company could have made a mistake. If you do you are fired or worse.
What Kador says an apology does is to show your ‘willingness to value the relationship rather than being right’. That is not entirely the whole story though, surely. Just looking after the business relationship puts the apology back into the we don’t care category. We apologise because we want to make more sales.
Maybe it’s the same thing, just looking at it from two different directions. Somehow it seems cold to consider an apology something to keep a relationship going rather than to acknowledge having made a mistake.
Would a company have an apology system purely to keep the customer happy, or should a company have a policy whereby staff admit that they, or the company, were wrong and the natural next step is to apologise.
One could imagine, especially in the litigious USA, that a company would be reluctant to admit to having done something wrong. Would this open them up to expensive law suits one would wonder.
On the other hand are US citizens so ready to sue because nobody ever admits to their mistakes. Look at medical mistakes. Even if they amputate the wrong limb, say an arm instead of a leg, you can rest assured that the US hospital and doctors involved in the procedure are not going to apologise and admit that they made a mistake.
The same applies when you are involved in a traffic accident. You get out of the car and blame the other driver even if you have just rear-ended somebody because you were talking on your mobile and not watching the traffic ahead of you. It’s to keep your insurance company happy you remind yourself.
What is truly surprising though is that John Kador presents some interesting facts and figures of what savings companies have if they are willing to apologise.
Yes, savings.
It costs less with respect to claims if employees are prepared to apologise if an error has been made. Kador provides an example of an organisation willing to apologise.
A Lexington VA hospital has an average malpractice settlement figure of $36 000 even though the States average for hospital malpractice settlement is around $413 000.00. And that remarkable difference is attributable to the hospitals policy of apologising.
It seems that people are after all not that ready to sue or if they do they will accept less money. They do this provided they are heard and their grievances taken seriously leading to the relevant people actually apologising.
Isn’t it strange that a common courtesy such as an apology is so rare that it had to be written about in a book and proclaimed by Tom Peters the Business Guru to be a ’strategic competence’. Whatever happened to just being a nice person, a ‘mensch’.